There’s a fine line between sexy and trashy and depending on your gal’s taste; crossing that line could happen before you know it. If you want to give her a sexy gift but don’t want to risk offending her or coming across as a selfish perv, then consider these tips.
3 Tips for Staying On the Right Side of Sexy
Remember the gift is for her and not you. The biggest mistake men make when choosing gifts for their partners is selecting something based on their own tastes and wants. You may like the idea of her dressed in a naughty schoolgirl outfit, but give that to her as a gift and you’re likely to get slapped and depending on her mood; accused of being a jerk who wants a younger woman! Think of her style and taste and you should be fine.
Be subtle if you’re trying to get her to open up to something new. Just because you’re all gung-ho about the idea of trying BDSM, that doesn’t mean that she is. So instead of opting for full-on bondage gear worthy of its own dungeon; try a beginner’s kit or one of the many more ‘vanilla’ versions available.
Think pretty and if that fails, then think pink. There’s something about pink that can make the most hardcore sex toys all of a sudden look dainty and cute. Even that mammoth 12inch dildo can enlist a high-pitched ‘awwww’ when bought in pink! So if you’re lost for what to buy for your gal; consider a pretty pink toy to appeal to her girly side.
For those of you that will have trouble resisting the urge to buy something that is more for you than for her when left to your own devices; I give you my list of things made with the ladies in mind. Stray from the list and you risk the wrath of an upset and offended woman. Not good.
Some Sexy Things Just for Her
Panties: You can never go wrong with a pair of pretty panties and thankfully they come in regular and queen size. My pick would be one of the pearl thongs for a unique and decadent gift.
Body Jewelry: This is a great choice because you don’t have to worry about sizes. Just be sure to choose something that you really believe she’d wear and enjoy. A clit ring may not be everyone’s cup of tea so maybe opt for a navel ring (they have clip-ons for those who aren’t pierced!)
DVDs: No, this is not your chance to get that ‘Mexicunts’ collection you’ve been dreaming of! Depending on her tastes, she’ll likely enjoy some of the porn geared at women. The Nina Hartley collection is instructional, but a fave among the girly crowd.
Erotic Books: Women are naturally more turned on by mental stimulation than visual which is why erotica for women is so popular. A copy of the Kama Sutra with paintings as opposed to a really graphic book of positions is also a good way to go.
Pretty Sex Toys: I’ll narrow it down to a select few, but you can click here for a blog dedicated to my favorite pretty and pink toys. My first pick is the Deluxe Rabbit Pearl because this vibe can coax and orgasm out of a gal in seconds! It is definitely made just for her. My other two picks are Emma’s Garden Lilly Pink and Passion Flower which is so cute that it doesn’t even look like a vibrator!
Romantic Gifts: When all else fails then think romance. There are kits made for lovers and romance and they take all the guess work out of what to buy because it’s all in there! Check out: Bed of Roses Deluxe, Enchanted Evening or the Romantic Gift Set.
So now that you know what to give her in order to make her really happy and feel special, I suppose it’s okay to tell you that in the end; taking the time to choose something just for her will benefit you too since she’ll be all raring to show her gratitude for the thoughtful gift. Now how’s that for incentive!
