Anal Sex Education

Anal sex has been a great mystery to many people. There are many questions about anal sex. The following article will address the details of Anal Sex.

Top three questions answered:

1. Does it hurt?
Of course, anything done incorrectly especially anal sex can hurt you or your partner. However, anal sex done correctly is a very pleasureable experience. If you follow a few basic guidelines (relax, use tons of lube, start small, build up slowly, don’t be goal-oriented, talk to each other, and stop if it starts to hurt), you’ll greatly increase your chances of having a good, fun, not-at-all-painful time.

2. Do women like anal sex?
“yes and no”. We know lots of women who love anal sex, and we also know some women who hates anal sex. However, majority of women who hate anal sex because of the past bad experiences they had with their partners. Again, when performed slowly and correctly, anal sex can be extremely pleasurable for women, especially if it’s approached as a fun experience rather than as a duty or The Last Great Taboo.

3. If I want to try anal sex, does it mean I am Gay? (question from guys)
No, it does not mean you are gay. We know plenty of straight couples who use strap-on dildos for male anal sex, and it spiced up their sex lives tremendously. The fact that a man likes stimulation in the anus because that’s where you can hit the “male g-spot” has no bearing on what particular set of chromosomes he finds appealing in a partner.

The following details help you understand how to perform anal sex correctly.

Seven basic steps for anal sex without any pain:

  1. Clean out your rectum (to avoid a mess and skin abrasions)
  2. Turn-on with foreplay (cuddle, kiss, etc.)
  3. Rim Preparation (licking)
  4. Lube and Finger (to relax the muscle)
  5. Strap-on dildo, Butt Plug, Anal Probe, and Anal Beads

 

1. Clean out your rectum

Worry of being “clean down there.” stops many people from even trying anal sex. Often, the only thing you will need to do before anal sex is to wash the outside to eliminate any foul odors or tastes. This will be sufficient for most of people. Finger test can be used to determine internal cleaness. This is done by inserting a lubed finger inside yourself while sitting over a toilet. (We know it can sound a little over the top, but there are simply no other way, and after a while, it becomes normal.) If you feel anything inside, you can try washing it out with an enema or doucheUnfortunately, enemas can make things messier because water will often get trapped inside and come gushing out unexpectedly during sex. This is why you should always do anal play over a towel that can be easily laundered. It is also a good idea to have a roll of paper towels and baby wipes nearby to clean up any messes that might occur.

After filling the enema bottle or rubber bulb with clean water, lube the tip and gently insert it in yourself. Slowly squeeze the bottle to squirt water inside. Pull the tip out before letting go to prevent water from being sucked back into the bottle. Hold the water inside for a while before dumping it in the toilet. You may need to do this several times until the water runs clean.

A cleaning technique many people use is to stick a lubed finger in and swish the enema water around to remove any residues stuck to the sides. The pieces knocked off will then easily come out when you dump the water. Repeat as needed and wash your hands and behind to finish cleaning up.

2. Turn-on with Foreplay

Foreplay is very very important for great anal sex, or any sex at all. It will help you turn-on sexually, which will relax yourself and get yourself prepared mentally and physically (muscles tend to tense up around the rectum, making anal sex extremely painful if not relaxed). Cuddling, kissing, massages, and other foreplay routines are great for relaxation.

3. Rim Preparation

A rim preparation is when your partner licks around your anus area. When practicing by yourself, you can simulate rimming by rubbing a spit covered finger around the outside of your backside. Try using your finger tip gently spreads the backside open. Experiment with different methods to see what feels good.

Rim preparation is not as important as foreplay, but it is encouraged for a pleasurable anal sex experience.

Note: Licking ass can spread hepatitis and other diseases. Your doctor can give you a shot to avoid hepatitis. Dental dams can be used for safety, but they tend to be impractical.

4. Lube and Finger

Using finger and plenty of lube is the most important anal sex preparation. You can even try fingering yourself without a partner for practicing. This is especially important for beginners who have never tried anal sex.

A single finger should be lubed and slowly pressed into the anus. The best lubes are tasteless and water soluble for easy clean up. We have many anal lubes in our store. Have fun and try out different brands to find one you like.

Oil based lubes are more slippery and last longer than water soluble lubes, but they can damage latex rubber condoms. Many products, such as some versions of Vaseline-brand petroleum jelly, can also contain other chemicals, which will irritate your skin.

Start with the tip of a lubed finger gently spreading anus apart. Use a slow and steady, in and out motion, so that the finger goes in a little bit deeper and deeper each time. Don’t rush and go too fast or it will hurt. If it hurts, slowly pull the finger out and let the muscles calm down. Sometimes wiggling the finger will help it slide further in. At some point, the finger will snap past the anus ring and pop into the looser rectum. When this happens, stop and hold still to let the muscles get used to the finger.

Guys should be able to feel the prostate gland because it will get really hard. Some guys will cum just from their prostate being stroked without even touching their penis. Experiment with different angles and pressure to find out how your prostate likes to be stroked.

After you are able to take one finger without pain, try slowly working in two and then three fingers. Some women are not able to take three fingers at all so do not force it. It will probably take multiple practice sessions to achieve two fingers without experiencing any pain to start with. Remember that you can never have too much lube.

When a partner is fingering, be sure to let him/her know what feels good or bad. Verbal communication for beginners are very important.

For safety, make sure the fingernails are cut and filed to prevent any cuts. Surgical gloves can also be used.

5. Strap-on dildo, Butt Plug, Anal Probe, and Anal Beads

When it comes to anal sex toys, there are many choices for you to select from. It literally opens a whole new door for couples who want to try anal sex. Anal sex for partners can be done using a strap-on dildobutt plugsanal probes, or anal beads. Some of these toys are even vibrating to add a level of stimulation. Regardless of what kind of toys you use, make sure you use plenty of lubricants, water based lubricants are the best for any type of sex toys.

Butt plugs or anal beads can be kept inside women’s body while performing regular intercourse for added pleasure for both partners.

You can see that sex can be a completely different game when anal sex toys are used.

Very important note: always starts off with small dildos or plugs before trying bigger ones.

That’s about all the introduction you need to start trying anal sex. Remember, never force physically or mentally for anal sex. Anal sex is at its best when partners are completely relaxed and sexually aroused. If you sense any tension, slow down and perform more foreplay. Always use plenty of lubricants.

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